I have not reached a point in my life where my entire future hinges on one decision, but perhaps that is because I have never viewed any decision that way. I realize that the majority of life is a succession of choices that form a picture, like pointillism. If I stand close, I just see blue and red and green dots, but from far away, they form my image. Even if I put a point of blue where it should be red, it will not make any difference if it is surrounded by red dots. In fact, different reds have different undertones--cool reds with a hint of blue, or hot orange-tinted reds--and so that addition of blue makes the image more beautiful and interesting. Without those undertones, my life would consist of solid blocks of colors, flat like cartoons. No, those mistakes make me complex and interesting.
I know that most people would expect me to want her to stay in Hays, but at this point I just want her to make some sort of change in her life. It doesn't matter if that means moving to Washington or getting a new job; both will bring their own challenges.
If I could can give her one piece of advice, though, it is this: There is no wrong answer. No matter what happens she will be fine, and she does not have be anywhere or do anything forever. Not even for six months.
I think it is a good thing she is being forced to finally battle the monster she has stared at for a year.